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Wanting What You Can’t Have

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It was a cold December afternoon as my friend and I walked past the BMW dealership. I was talking about how my day at work had gone when I realized my friend was no longer walking with me. I looked back and sure enough, there he was, cold nose pressed against the window of the dealership, eyes filled with tears, lips quivering as he said “She…is…so…beautiful.” No, he was not talking about the hot receptionist; he was talking about the brand new BMW 3 series. Alas, my friend who worked part time at the local bookstore could not afford such a car, but he had dreams.

We all have dreams. Dreams about things we cannot have. Whether it’s that new car, dress, iPhone, or that hot girl on the cover of Maxim, we have all drooled after things that we believed we could never have. And it doesn’t have to be something or someone. I know plenty of people who spend their whole lives trying to attain their parents’ approval, or trying to overcome that unrequited love. As human beings we are wired to want to get things that are unattainable. But is it truly nature, or does the society we live in have an effect on why we want things we can’t have?

My bichare friend is still driving his 1998 Toyota Carolla, and every time we pass the BMW dealership, I know…a little piece of him dies.

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10 comments

  1. Sure, lets go listen to what people wish they had, instead of listening to how people should just be happy with what they already have. Having dreams rather then being content in what you have is what causes midlife crisis.

    Just work hard, buy what you can, and be happy; having dreams you may or may not achieve causes problems…and even if you do achieve dreams, once you receive what you get, you will always want more more more, and eventually nothing will make you content; and thus my friends, is the summary of why 99% of people in America are stressed and always feel their lives are not what they want.

    As for me? Yes I am content with everything I have, I have some nice things, some not so nice things, but in the end, it’s the functionality of what you have that matters, not the way it looks. Driving that piece of crap car to starbucks while your friend drives his Ferrari, he paid $800,000 so he can have the same thing you have, just more exotic, woopdey doo.

  2. Shermineh is a very beautiful girl with an awesome body who has been kind enough to share her beauty with us and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And for the narrow minded idiot who left a negative comment on facebook he needs to do some study and learn how he was the first day he was born. There is nothing wrong with nudity and if you have something that nice as shermineh has, why not share it with other people so they can enjoy it as well.

    I am very surprised that you even put “being ashamed” in your question!!! How can someone be ashamed of something that gorgeous! There is also another Iranian girl called “Romina Goshtasbi” who posed nude in a magazine. I think this trend has just started and hopefully more models are on the way in the near future.

    1. Bahram Jan,
      Thank you for your sentiment toward Ms. Shahrivar. We included it to encourage the people who feel that way to express their feelings like everyone else.
      Thanks for listening Bahram jan.

  3. I think the reason why a lot of people want what they can’t have is because of the way things are advertised in the media. Also, I think the issue with shermineh has more to do with the media and the way things are advertised for women. This is an interesting documentary regarding this issue that has received a lot of hype recently: http://missrepresentation.org/

    Is there a male equivalent for shermineh? Iranian or non-Iranian?

    What Farzad said reminded me of reading the diary of Anne Frank in school. There is a scene in that book that describes kinda what farzad was talking about and I remember a lot of kids in our English class asking the teacher if Anne Frank was gay and the teachers response was something to the effect that it was normal for a girl experiencing puberty! Farzad jan, I don’t think that is unique to Iran, it happens here too maybe for little kids and middle schoolers. If you go to a daycare or kindergarten classroom you may even find it happening in some form or fashion. But not for grown men! In Iran I think regardless of the fact that men and women are segregated, it’s much easier for guys to find a girlfriend and girls to find a boyfriend. People still have their means, it’s not like they go without just because they are separated.

    Also regarding the Iranian guys acting gay issue, back when I was in undergrad I had some friends who were Iranian and some who were American and we would all hang out together. One day we were all sitting together talking about what the chinese language sounds like (sorry if this sounds racist admin feel free to edit it) and we asked the Americans what Farsi sounds like to someone who doesn’t know any Farsi and their response was that “when girls speak it sounds bubbly, when guys speak it sounds really gay!” LOL.

      1. LOL. I guess he could be the male equivalent of Shermineh if he starts stripping on camera… but then again if that happened CNN would probably fire him! And he would have nowhere to turn to for a job since playboy doesn’t hire male models!

    1. Saeed Jan, Iranican Live, even though the name suggests it, is not streamed live. We are looking into doing live streaming video in the future =)