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سعدی: ز عقل اندیشه ها زاید که مردم را بفرسابد گرت آسودگی باید برو عاشق شو ای عاقل

Our afternoon-nap-taking-homeboy Saadi says:

“The [logical] mind bares thoughts that wares people out. If you want to be at ease, go fall in love [use your heart], [you] wise one.”

Do you agree with Saadi? Do you actually practice this concept? Everywhere or only in some contexts? Take the Iranican Live Poll. A few people we’ve talked to say they’ve been BURNED adopting this philosophy in their romantic relationships. What’s your experience been like?

Iman and Shahed are not around, but Elnaz (favoring Logic) followed by Kaveh (favoring Heart) have this to say.

Head:
We all know people who break up over the most random and stupid things. They start the relationship thinking “you make me sooooo happy” and then expect to be happy 100% of the time…PLEASE do not fool yourselves…you will not be happy 100% of the time…but the minute people using only heart and emotion feel unhappy, they don’t want it anymore, and they want out.

Using your heart is at times behaving without thinking and can and WILL get you into a lot of trouble. Hence, when people say “you put your foot in your mouth” or what not.

They say “change your thoughts, change your life”, that the mind has the power to change everything. We ultimately have the power to use our mind to make things better and even worse for ourselves. What you think about expands, and what you think about you draw into your life whether you want it or not. The mind even to some level, controls your emotions, or can be used to control your emotions. Like getting over someone…how do you get over someone? You decide one day that it’s over…you’re gonna move on and you get over it. - Elnaz

Heart:
I’ve realized that you will never know the answers to some things. By accepting this, it’s much easier to make decisions using your heart. Why do you want something, it doesn’t matter really why, because you want it and that’s what matters.

If you’re thinking about it too much, then you’re rationalizing your heart and what you want. Some things are meant to be simple, go with your gut once you know yourself. The caveat being once you know yourself and in our generation it appears that the new saying 30 is the new 20 is holding to be true. In marriages the divorce rate is much reduced at people who marry at 30 then 20. That is my advice. - Kaveh

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Have you ever tried to explain to your non-eastern friends what Gheyrat is? What do you say? We weren’t able to find a direct translation to it, but what is obvious is that women in general seek ‘protection’ and whether it’s the protection from predatory animals in our hunter gatherer ancestors, or it’s because of all the Superman, and Batman cartoons and movies we’ve watched growing up, men are wired to protect and women are wired to get turned on by that. Okay, but Gheyrat goes beyond just physical protection, so if you want to make her want you like there is no tomorrow, an ‘inappropriate’ flirt/touch from another guy to your girl, needs to be dealt with ‘appropriately’. Don’t ask me to define appropriate because I can’t, so let’s move on.org

The more I think about it, the more being ‘Gheyrati’ sounds like being extremely against Sexual Harassment. Stay with me, If I remember my High School lecture correctly Sexual Harassment is unwanted sexual attention the only difference here is that the person that decides what’s unwanted here is the person who’s doing the ‘protecting’ and not the person on the receiving end of the flirt.

If you were left more confused about Gheyrat than when you started reading this blog, just know that it makes for good round of charades.

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